Hi, I'm a teenager and I've been really confused about my sexuality lately. I think I might be pansexual, 'cause personally, labels aren't important to me, for gender or sexuality, and I basically believe that love is love, and whoever I fall in love with or am attracted to is the important thing, not really gender. However I'm mostly attracted to guys (i'm a cis female) and sometimes genderqueer people and certain types of girls. I've only dated a guy before, too. Any advice helps, thanks!
Sorry I only just got to this!
You sound a lot like me. I dated only guys till I was about 24 before I realised I was pansexual.
My advice would be to get out there and meet lots of people and just to see how you feel. You don’t have to make any concrete decisions when it comes to sexuality. My ideas about my sexuality change all the time, along with how I might identify.
I think pansexuals are beautiful people, looking at the person for who they are and how they make you feel is so much more important then any outer shell.
Good luck with it and be strong about who you are.
Haven't been back to Sydney in over 8 years and I'm heading back in Sydney... what's the lesbian nightlife like at the moment? What can you recommend for a good night? I can't remember a thing anymore!!!! Any ideas? X
I will make you a pretty list:
- Unicorns - clearly no.1 since it is my event. Think burlesque, body painting, strobe lights, warehouse, lots of babes.
’Our journey is not complete until our gay brothers and sisters are treated like anyone else under the law – for if we are truly created equal, then surely the love we commit to one another must be equal as well.’
Guess who has made it into the finals for Bachelorette of The Year!?
It is down to the top 5 and I am one of them!
The LOTL (Lesbians on the Loose) magazine runs a competition every year where single lesbians compete for the title. The competition is based on the ladies merits and their contribution to the queer community.
The top 5 are then selected, then it is up to the public to vote for their favourite.
If you feel like sharing the love, you can vote here ->
Hey, I'm coming to sydney on NYE its my first time out of perth ever, Im coming by my self and will be staying in kingscross, what do you recommend a gay girl does ? I want to meet some new people and pretty girls and have a really good time :)
Thanks for the message!
I would highly recommend heading to the Day Party at the Newtown Hotel on NYD. LadyHawke is playing for free! Plus the Djs from GiRLTHING who run the biggest girl nights in Sydney.
WHEN YOUR PARENTS TELL YOU ABOUT SOMEONE GETTING MARRIED
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When your parents are like “oh Mark from your old school is getting married next October and his fiance’s going to buy a wedding dress with his mother tomorrow and they’re really lucky to get an appointment at the bridal store at such short notice. Aren’t any of your friends getting married?”
What I’m like outside:
Hmm? Why no, they’re not actually. But how interesting, thank you for imparting that piece of information to me.
What I’m like inside:
MY FRIENDS DON’T GET MARRIED BECAUSE THEY’RE ALL QUEERS AND THEY CAN’T LEGALLY GET MARRIED ANYWAY AND I KNOW YOU’RE NOT COUNTING CIVIL PARTNERSHIPS IN THIS. AND EVEN IF THEY COULD THEY WOULDN’T GO TO FUCKING BRIDAL STORES 11 MONTHS IN ADVANCE. And the ones that are straight don’t have any more hope of getting married either because that just seems to be what they’re like.
I deal with suicidal, unipolar depression and I take medication daily to treat it. Over the past seven years, I’ve had two episodes that were severe and during which I thought almost exclusively of suicide. I did not eat much and lost weight during…
re: your breakup situation, i'd say it's important to get space after a breakup. I'm going through that right now, actually, and I still want to shag the living daylights out of her, even though she cheated on me. Human minds are screwy that way. So I vote, get space and then slowly try being friends if and only if it feels right.
Agreed. I think space is the only way to get rid of that wanting to shag their brains out feeling.
Thankfully I think the feeling has disappeared. I have found finding someone else to distract you helps also.
“When the first lesbian opened her eyes on the first morning of the dawn of the world, she put on a plaid shirt and walked to the first co-op, where the cute cashier promptly hit on her. They were fruitful and multiplied, and that’s where baby dykes come from.”—Effing Dykes: Forever Back To School (via harlequin-hurricanes)
“I am a sincere believer that people come into our lives for a reason. Sometimes, it’s because we need a shoulder. Sometimes, it’s because we need someone who understands us. Sometimes, it’s simply to feel: to be angry, to be in love, to be inspired. Throughout our lives we want different things, we need different things. I’m often amazed at how people enter our lives accordingly. This also applies to those we have been a relationship with. When you are in a relationship with someone, you share yourself. You open up and give them a little piece of you. They were meant to have that piece, as you were meant to accept a piece of them. A lot of times, problems arise and two people don’t end up working out. A lot of times, the two don’t communicate anymore. I believe that when we end a relationship with someone, we can never be as close to them as we were before. Part of you is broken. Part of them is broken. And that’s okay, because they were there for the parts of your life that they needed to be. Sometimes we get lucky enough to find a friendship in someone that we’ve loved but that’s rare. When hearts feel so strongly and so deeply, it’s hard to say, “Dear heart, change now. Feel less.” In the end, that little piece that you gave to them was never returned, it’s kept safe, just like you keep the piece they gave you safe. And you don’t need to call each other everyday or talk like your best friends. Because when we lose someone, there is always a part of them that we’ll get to keep. Love never leaves. Nor does it die. Love has an appropriate time & place.
And sometimes love needs to be tucked away, and simply remembered.”—